Made By Mrs M

Taking a Proper Break...

Kate Marsden

A few weeks ago I had the luxury of spending two nights away with my best friend at a wonderful health spa. The food was fantastic (and healthy), amazing treatments, brilliant exercise classes, and time to lounge by the outdoor pool in the sunshine. There was one thing I was secretly concerned about though - no mobile phones outside of your room…

Not a photo of the spa… This is from Bristol last October - I didn’t take any photos at all for three days!

Not a photo of the spa… This is from Bristol last October - I didn’t take any photos at all for three days!

I’ve spoken before about my addiction to my phone. Last year I had battery issues with my old one on and off for months, and it made me really stressed. What if my phone just died and school needed to get hold of me? How could I function without taking multiple photos every day? So you can see how I was a little apprehensive.

I have however been struggling a bit with social media since my Dad passed away. At times it’s a comfort having all those people there to talk to whenever I need them, but at the same time I’ve been feeling impossibly overwhelmed by life in general, and it’s only taking one misconstrued comment or one poorly received Instagram post to tip me over the edge. So I knew that on balance a forced break would be a good thing. Oh and I also knew that my husband would be around in case that call came from school, and the only people who’d really need to get hold of me in a hurry knew where I was…

I made the decision before leaving home that I’d check emails and texts only (when in my room of course) and not touch any social media until I got back. This turned out to be a very good decision. By checking emails and texts periodically nothing REALLY urgent would be missed - emails do make me anxious (especially when I’m waiting for news about a job or hoping for orders) but nowhere near as much as social media does. When I came home I didn’t feel an immediate urge to scroll through Twitter for an hour, and according to my phone, my screen time has actually reduced. I made a new pledge too. By putting my phone away earlier at the spa I’d slept better, so I’m now making sure I take my phone upstairs, plug it in and switch it to “do not disturb” by 9.30pm each night at the latest. And guess what? I’m getting to sleep quicker and sitting there ruminating less. Turns out that what “they” all say is true after all!

Alongside this I made the decision to start eating better (not less, but better) as, balanced evening meals aside, my diet was rubbish. This is a work in progress and I suspect it will take a while to see if this makes me feel better or not.

And now I’m toying with a complete break from social media when I go on my summer holiday too. May be pushing it a bit far, but let’s see! Small steps…